This is self-work and I'm Dr Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

and what to do about them.

I'm Dr Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today

for your own self-work.

Hi, I'm Dr. Margaret and you're listening to self-work. Thanks so much for being with me today.

We're going to be talking about trying to love someone with depression.

It's a really tough job because people who are depressed aren't giving back. They're often very

focused on themselves because that's part of the disease process and almost

implosion of the self. The more severe of the depression severe the depression the less connected and engaged that person is with their world and

You're trying to love them so I've got some tips today about how to help you do that. First we're going to talk about

the different kinds of depression and we'll go through these very quickly

actually. Then we'll get to these tips or recognitions that I think are helpful to make.

Third, I'm going to talk about a specific case I had where a woman I'll call

Patricia brought her husband in to therapy so that he could better understand her recurrent depression. her but it raises its head again. I gave him a specific metaphor to think about and he told me it was greatly helpful and actually Patricia is the first one who ever told me that I should write a book. It was so helpful to them, which made me feel good, of course.

And then the last thing we'll do, every episode at the end

I read an email or some kind of message from a reader slash listener.

Today's email is going to be about the diagnosis of bipolar illness and what you can do to help

yourself with that as well as a question about if you're

in therapy and you haven't been completely honest with your therapist, how do you backtrack

or how do you explain that to a therapist?

I've got some answers about those things.

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