This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues

common in today's world and what to do about them.

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

Hi, I'm Dr. Margaret, and welcome to self-work.

We're going to be talking about listening today.

So many couples come to my office and say,

you know, Dr. Margaret, we just don't know how to communicate.

And what I've learned in the many years I've done

therapy is really they're talking about not knowing how to listen. Now you're a

listener you're a podcast listener so you obviously enjoy listening or you have some listening

skills so I'm hoping to be able to help you especially in your relationships.

First I'm going to tell you a phenomenal story of how one couple learned how to really listen.

It's very dramatic.

And then we're going to go over six bad habits that we can all get into.

They're very common things, but I'm going to tell you at least from my perspective how you can change them.

Then I'm going to give you that specific technique that the couple I talked about at the very first

actually was trying to learn how to do and how to practice. And I'll give you that

technique so that you can practice at home. And then as always, I'm going to read a letter from a reader.

Actually, it was from a listener.

I forgot.

I'm so excited that I had my first podcast listener send me

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