Yung Pueblo on How to Love Without Attachment (Why Most Relationships Get Stuck) • 391

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Melissa Monte | Mindset Mentor

Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 4 March 2025

⏱️ 71 minutes

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In this episode, you’ll learn: The subtle difference between love and attachment—and why most people get it wrong How to allow your relationships to evolve instead of holding onto old dynamics The key to loving others without losing yourself Have you ever outgrown a version of yourself but felt guilty for it? Like you’re supposed to stay the same person you’ve always been because it makes other people comfortable? Maybe you’re the “fun” friend who’s suddenly craving quiet. Or the overachiever who’s realizing that success at all costs isn’t actually success. Or the person who’s spent years in a relationship, but something inside you is whispering: You’re changing. Real love—whether it’s romantic, platonic, or self-love—requires evolution. It asks us to stop clinging to what was and start creating something new. It asks us to let go of attachment, control, and old expectations so we can build relationships that actually support the people we’re becoming. Today, our guest is Yung Pueblo aka Diego Perez is a meditator and #1 New York Times bestselling author who is widely known by his pen name, Yung Pueblo. He has sold over 1.5 million books worldwide that have been translated into over 25 languages. Online he has an audience of over 4 million people. His writing focuses on the power of self-healing, creating healthy relationships, and the wisdom that comes when we truly work on knowing ourselves. Diego’s new book, How to Love Better, is available for preorder and will be released in March 2025. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/391 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Have you ever outgrown a version of yourself but then felt kind of guilty for it?
0:07.0	Like you're supposed to stay the same person that you've always been, because it makes other people comfortable.
0:13.0	Maybe you're the fun friend who's suddenly craving quiet, or the overachiever who's realizing that success at all costs isn't actually
0:22.6	success.
0:24.2	Or the person who spent years in a relationship, but something inside you is whispering,
0:28.6	You're changing.
0:31.4	I remember the exact moment that I realized I had to let go of the life I thought I wanted.
0:37.0	I was sitting across from a guy who, on paper, checked every box.
0:41.5	He said all the right things.
0:42.8	He made me laugh.
0:43.8	He even shared my love for deep conversations.
0:46.9	But something just fell off.
0:48.8	And not with him, with me.
0:51.8	The version of me that would have clung to this, tried to make it work, twisted myself
0:56.4	to fit, just wasn't there anymore. I had done too much work, seen too much of myself to pretend that I
1:03.9	didn't feel the shift, and yet I still sat there, trying to talk myself back into my old ways.
1:13.0	Maybe I'm being too picky, maybe I'm expecting too much. Maybe this discomfort is just fear. But it wasn't fear. It was growth. And I
1:20.8	almost didn't let myself have it. And if I'm honest, this isn't just about relationships.
1:27.4	It's about love itself.
1:29.6	Because most of us were never taught how to love in a way that allows room for growth.
1:34.2	We were taught to hold on, to fix, to compromise until we lose ourselves.
1:40.0	And we mistake that for love.
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