Your relationship expectations could be holding you back | Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile

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🗓️ 21 November 2024

⏱️ 11 minutes

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What if the secret to a happy relationship isn’t following the rules, but rewriting them? In this refreshing talk, couples therapist Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile explores why letting go of traditional societal expectations of romantic relationships — like sharing the same routines or even, in some cases, living together — can help couples embrace their individuality, reduce conflict and build stronger, more fulfilling connections.

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0:00.0	TED Audio Collective.
0:09.3	You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas to spark your curiosity every day.
0:14.9	I'm your host, Elise Hugh.
0:16.7	A challenge for you today, listeners.
0:18.8	Marriage and family therapist, Stephanie Yates, Anya Buele, says we should actually reject
0:23.6	everything we know about relationships, and that doing this will be freeing and can be the key to
0:29.2	having a great relationship.
0:31.3	If this sounds counterintuitive, she will make sense of it in her 2024 talk after the
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1:22.2	in an absolute romance theme. I'm talking about everything from the notebook to Twilight to a show. Some of you
1:30.3	may remember called The Flavor of Love. It's a reality competition show where the prize was
1:37.0	the love of Flav of Flav of Flav. I think about relationships a lot, and something that comes up
1:43.3	a lot of my work is this belief
1:45.4	that relationships are hard. And we believe that due to one primary reason. Our metric of success
1:52.2	is based on what we've seen everyone else do. Imagine how you would honestly feel if you
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