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All right, today's question comes from Annie in Florida. My husband are two kids and I live with my husband's widowed mom who doesn't work.

We pay all the bills, buy grocery, and pay her house taxes. She and I don't get along 90% of the time, especially when it comes to my kids.

My husband and I are not on the same page with money, and I don't have control over the money

unless he gives it to me. We have one debt left, and we could pay it off in one to two months

if we work together, but there's just no urgency from him. My sanity is on the brink and I'm tired of arguing with my husband and being run over

by my in-laws. I've talked to my husband and tried to lay boundaries, but then I'm just a

control freak, quote unquote, according to my mother-in-law. Sometimes I just want to leave and get my

own apartment with my kids, but I don't feel like that would be right and would make things worse.

I know I shouldn't let other people control my emotions,

but this is like a wound that keeps getting cut open and salt poured in it.

Is getting away from my mother-in-law going to fix things, or am I the issue?

Good night.

Well, I don't like that.

She can't get money unless he gives it to me.

No, thank you.

I'm a control freak, according to my mother-in-law.

No, thank you.

Yeah, it sounds like you are just breeding the air of planet gaslight.

Yeah.

So all we can go on, Annie, is what you've written here.

And so here's what I would tell you.

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