You, Your Husband and His Mother
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 25 November 2025
⏱️ 63 minutes
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Summary
I’m joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, couples therapist, author of You, Your Husband, and Your Mother-in-Law, and host of Dear Dr. Tracy, to dive into the messy and emotional dynamics of merging families. You don’t have to be married for this to resonate; these patterns show up in every relationship, and every couple can benefit from understanding them. We break down the biggest myths about in-laws, why boundaries aren’t what people think they are, and how therapy-talk culture has shifted these dynamics. We also unpack listener scenarios around overstepping, wedding-planning chaos, ex-obsessed parents, and competitive siblings—and what needs to shift for MILs, husbands, and wives to finally get on the same team. Grab the book and learn more at drtracyd.com, and follow along at @drtracyd.
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| 0:00.0 | Dr. Tracy Doglish, welcome to seeing other people. |
| 0:06.0 | Thank you for having me here, Lana. |
| 0:07.7 | I have been thinking about how to introduce you. |
| 0:11.0 | And the way that I have concluded I must do is that there are often people that I think, |
| 0:19.5 | how is it possible that we have the same number of hours |
| 0:22.5 | in a day? You are a couples therapist, a relationship expert, a podcast host, an author, a mother, |
| 0:30.7 | and not only did you have one book out, but you then decided to write this book, you, your husband, |
| 0:36.6 | and his mother. And I think so many people |
| 0:39.7 | are going to be so grateful that you did. And I think this is a book that every single person, |
| 0:44.6 | regardless of if they're married yet or not, if they have a complicated relationship with |
| 0:50.5 | their mother-in-law or not, there's so much people can take away from this. But with all of the |
| 0:55.8 | hats you wear, with everything that you do, why did you decide to also then write this book? |
| 1:01.8 | I love that question. And I always say to people, what you see on the outside, you don't get to |
| 1:05.5 | see behind the scenes. So while sometimes I'm there for pickup with my kids, there are a lot of times where I don't do |
| 1:11.5 | pickups and drop-offs. My husband doesn't. And the business does not exist without his support. |
| 1:16.8 | And I can't do all of this alone. So I always like to say, remember, it didn't happen overnight. |
| 1:21.9 | This has been growing for many years in my work. But this book really came from almost 20 years of sitting across from |
| 1:29.1 | couples all struggling with this issue. And everybody comes to me saying, we want to learn how to |
| 1:35.0 | communicate. We want to feel connected. And then part of that really is, how do we have good |
| 1:40.8 | family relationships? Right? We do, it might not be the most important thing to us, |
| 1:47.1 | but it's still important to us. And so continuously, and releasing the book title, a lot of people |
| 1:54.4 | had said, why didn't you call it you, your husband, and your mother? And it's a fair question. We know |
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