Welcome to the Daily Dad Podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holliday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from parents just like you all over the

world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

You won't let them do this to you anymore. Before you were a glutton for punishment,

you were tolerant, you were accepting.

If the boss wanted it, if the customer needed it, if it could help you in your career, you were up for

it. Long hours, long flights, calls at 2 a.m., quick trips into the office on the weekends.

As we wrote recently, there was some advantages to your old life when you were single before

you had kids. You were flexible and hungry,

but now there is so much more to consider so many competing responsibilities. There is sadly

plenty of evidence showing how having kids can harm one's career prospects, particularly for women,

and that's unfair and it should change. Yet there are also advantages to this new you,

the responsible you. Namely, well, you don't have time

for bullshit and busy work anymore. One night back in her political days as the Arizona Senate

majority leader, Sandra Day O'Connor was called in for a surprise midnight session of the legislature.

She headed in like old times, but then balked. I'm not doing this, she told the political leaders of both parties.

My boys are going to camp tomorrow, she explained.

I'm going to make sure their clothes are cleaned and their bags are packed.

And then she gave them five minutes to come to an agreement and wrap up the issue.

You have too much going on to accept some of the things that you used to accept.

Rudeness, drama, poor boundaries, unpaid extra work, unpredictable scheduling, long, needlessly

drawn out meetings.

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