In John Maxwell's book, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, he talks about momentum.

And how the saying, if you can't take the heat, then get out of the kitchen, doesn't quite get it right, advocating that it should instead be

if you can't create the heat, then get out of the kitchen. And being that we are all leaders

in our own lives, I think he hits on something that none of us should overlook.

The power of momentum, of not waiting but creating, reminding ourselves that we are not spectators,

sitting in the stands and simply reacting to, or complaining about the events taking place below.

No, we have the ability to change the things we do not like

and create the ones that don't yet exist when we know they should.

Too much of the time we react to that metaphorical heat in the kitchen, as John alludes to,

forgetting that we can dial it up or down.

We're not only characters that have been created, we are ourselves, creators.

And I talk a lot about mental shifts that have changed my life and there are plenty.

But perhaps the most important was the realization that I can do something about the things I don't

like. And I know that sounds simple, probably even obvious. But I look back at various stages of my life and I'm blown away by the amount of things

I tolerated for years and years simply because I gave it no thought.

There were so many questions that I never asked, so many opportunities I never explored, until I realized, hey, you can stop

accepting those things you don't want.

It's amazing the power of a simple list that was created, two columns, left side, all the things that bothered me. That I wasn't

happy with, or that I knew should be there that had been lacking. And then on the right column,

what I'm going to do about it, every single item. Each one, what's the step I'm going to take and I just poured my

heart onto that paper and it's like you look down and feel like you have finally

moved into the driver's seat there's something incredible about knowing that you have

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