You’ve Never Been A Parent, You’ve Only Been Parented | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 14

After Hours With Amanda

Parenting, Kids & Family

5.0 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 5 March 2021

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about spanking, discipline, emotional regulation, and why I’m learning to humanize my tiny people instead of parenting from fear, ego, or other people’s opinions.

I share the moment that made me rethink spanking, what I’m learning about giving kids tools instead of shame, and why so much of parenting starts with the fact that we’ve never been parents before. We’ve only been parented.

This one is about gentle parenting, boundaries, mental health, repair, and doing our best in real time.

00:00 Welcome Back To After Hours

01:23 Riding The Waves Of Emotion

02:10 Therapy And Unresolved Trauma

03:07 Dating Episode Tease

03:28 Boundaries Before Dating

05:30 Today’s Topic Is Spanking

06:54 Growing Up With Spanking

08:18 The Moment That Changed My Mind

11:29 What Does Spanking Actually Teach?

14:17 Ego, Opinions, And Parenting

17:11 Discipline, Punishment, And Teaching

18:28 The iPad Car Meltdown

20:19 Naming The Emotion

23:31 Other People’s Opinions

25:13 Finding Better Alternatives

31:14 Humanizing Tiny People

38:58 You’ve Only Been Parented

46:13 It Is Never Too Late To Repair

Transcript

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0:00.0	Well, hello and welcome to After Hours with Amanda.
0:03.3	Y'all, it's been a couple weeks.
0:04.9	It's been a couple weeks, but I'm going to be honest with you.
0:08.1	Oh, you know what?
0:08.7	Hold on.
0:09.0	Let's get professional for a half a second here.
0:11.2	Hi, welcome to the After Hours with Amanda podcast, the podcast that's about parenting,
0:15.8	but not just for parents and not totally just about parenting because we cover all the ish. And I would love to say I was on a
0:22.5	podcast this last week and it was so cool. We had commercial breaks. We had intro music and I was about it.
0:29.7	So that was a joy. When will that come to after hours with Amanda? Well, y'all, I just don't know.
0:34.7	Because if you have followed me long enough and you are an after hours OG, which a lot of you are, or if you are new, you know that I live life and content exactly as it comes.
0:46.8	And does that make for some issues with consistency? It can. I'm going to open up my kombucha real quick. And I talked about this on Insta. If you all have not tried this rowdy mermaid kombucha I discovered a few weeks ago, do yourself a favor. I swear. I feel, you know, when you like shop at Whole Foods and you feel kind of fancy. And it's not that I shop there often. But because, you know, the, you know, the Joe Cole paycheck. Anyways, but this kombucha, I just feel just fancy.
1:15.0	I feel like, is it just me?
1:17.0	Am I going to the beach later?
1:18.2	Who am I?
1:18.8	Who am I right now?
1:20.4	Do I, like, do you guys follow its meet tanks?
1:23.9	Okay, so I feel like this kombucha is like rich mom kombucha, even though I'm very far from that.
1:29.7	But anyways, here's the thing. I shared on TikTok and Instagram that I have been writing the ocean waves of emotions that are this last year, right?
1:43.0	And I think that it is a fair assessment to say that if you're
1:46.7	feeling a little worse or a little more high tide in this moment, you are not alone. Reason being
1:54.4	a week ago last year, we didn't know what was going to happen. Everything was new and it felt
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