You Thought it Was Love, But it Wasn't
The Angry Therapist Podcast
John Kim
4.6 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 1 December 2020
⏱️ 20 minutes
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What if you thought it was love, but what if it wasn't?John Kim (The Angry Therapist) is doing things differently. Therapy in a shot glass. Ten minutes, no filler.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own |
| 0:06.7 | rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or |
| 0:11.0 | clinical and with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on |
| 0:15.9 | purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. We all have? And, that one relationship that we compare all others to, right? |
| 0:29.0 | And usually that relationship happened when we were younger. |
| 0:34.0 | Usually it's, maybe it's high school, |
| 0:37.7 | maybe it's college, or maybe when it's in your 20s, but it's usually when we were younger. |
| 0:45.0 | And the reason is because it was a new experience, |
| 0:50.0 | because it was a fresh imprint. Now here's the thing. A lot of people mistake and this is also |
| 0:59.0 | including myself we think that because something was powerful or something was just, you know, gave you a lot of dopamine, that stickiness of love, right? |
| 1:18.0 | That feeling of two people being inside a blanket or maybe more accurately a sleeping bag because a lot of it is wrapped with co-dependency when we're younger. |
| 1:29.0 | This idea of losing yourself and two people turning into one right that process can be |
| 1:37.6 | extremely powerful and this happens all of us it happens in school. It happens when we're in our 20s. |
| 1:44.8 | It happens when we don't know a lot about what Healthy looks like. |
| 1:49.9 | It happens when we are just going by what we feel and a lot of times what we feel is |
| 1:57.8 | the magnetic pull from our dysfunction so what I mean by that is you know you take two people and |
| 2:07.7 | everyone has a story and you take two people who have, I don't know, different but same stories. Like you take |
| 2:16.2 | someone who was raised with, say, an Iron Fist dad and you know she lost |
| 2:21.0 | something, her voice, something was taken from her and then you take a |
| 2:24.4 | guy who maybe has a the attic gene in his family tree and he is impulsive and unpredictable and chaotic and you put these two people in a room and there's this just crazy magnetic attraction that hasn't you know has less to do with physical appearance and more to do with that kind of dynamic. |
| 2:48.0 | Maybe you're attracted to someone because they smell familiar and by familiar I mean something that was |
| 2:54.8 | dysfunctional in your family right so there's so many things at play but when we |
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