Hi everybody, welcome to your move where we help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets. I'm Andy Stanley and I'll be your guide and today we're talking about the comparison trap and it's a trap.

It's a trap because well there's always somebody with more ur right? Richard, cuter, faster, skinnier. It's a trap you're going to want to avoid and today I will tell you how right here on your move.

As we get started, quick survey and I'd love you to raise your hand and everybody play along and if you're watching at home play along or if you're driving, keep one hand on the steering wheel.

How many of you actually are on Instagram? I'm just curious. Not right this minute but like you do Instagram. Yeah, okay. Yeah, most of us. The great thing about Instagram is, I mean like the really great thing about Instagram is

the problem really if I'm just honest, the problem with Instagram is that now that I'm on Instagram, I find I'm constantly needing a new pair of shoes and this is embarrassing to talk about because I never really thought about shoes and every once in a while at Christmas or something,

I would like to introduce you to some shoes and like are those cool, okay, I'll wear those. I never thought about it. Now that I'm on Instagram, I have more shoes. I have almost as many shoes I think sometimes as Sandra. It's just ridiculous and I, again, I just never gave many much thought to shoes or ship lap. Now we have ship lap in our house. Okay, I never gave much thought to that. I never gave any thought to your cute kids and I can't go back and redo all of our family pictures because they're on film.

So I'm going to get back to that, like what can you do with that? So now I take pictures of pictures to put on Instagram. It's so lame. I'm also bothered by all the incredible vacations you have, like they look amazing you can places I've never been, in fact, I've gone to some of this places but it didn't look near as cool as it was when you went with your cool pictures. So I thought well the way to solve this is I'm just not going to look so I just, I just quit. I'm going to get off Instagram and I thought wait a minute. I'm not a quitter so I got back on. I thought no I'm not a quitter. I'm just going to get on Instagram. I'm just not looking at my shoes. I thought I'm going to get off Instagram and I thought wait a minute. I'm not a quitter, so I got back on. No, I'm not a quitter. I'm just going to leave my shoes.

going to up my game and I'm going to make you as discontent with your life as you have

made me with my life and so I'm going to start using better filters, I'm going to crop

it a little bit closer and kind of, you know, edit out all the stuff and I'm just going

to take it over and over and over and over until I get the perfect picture and I'm going

to, I'm going to put on Instagram the highlight reel of my life so that it'll make your lame

life look even laimmer, right? No, the great thing about Instagram, it really is, the great

thing about Instagram is that it is a constant reminder and we all need reminding of this.

It is a constant reminder that there really is no win in comparison. There is, absolutely,

you've heard me say that before, there really is no win in comparison and the reason I talk

about that is because we are in part three of this series called You Are Not The Boss Of Me,

You're Not The Boss Of Me and the subtitle says it all how to because this is a how to series,

how to say no to the emotions that compete for control, how to say no to the emotions that

compete for control because all of us have two or three emotions that compete for control of

our lives and today we're going to talk about this ugly word envy envy to me, this is just me,

I think this is the ugliest thing in human nature, I know it is the ugliest thing in me,

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