Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

I was speaking to a friend of mine recently who is well she was freaking out

let's just I'll just tell the truth she was freaking out

normally I soften this a bit and I wouldn't have said to her you're freaking out in this moment but she was right she was really off

track with a goal that she had in her career so she was meant to achieve something and for whatever reason it wasn't achieved.

It was quite below the goal that was set and she was full panic mode making it mean a whole lot of things about her really telling a story inside of herself that it meant something about her worth, right, as a human being on planet Earth.

And it's so interesting because whenever someone is going through a lot of suffering,

a freakout moment, even physical pain to a point or managing an emotion that feels really, really big and consuming.

There is one sentence that I always come back to with others and with myself when I need to be reminded of the truth.

And if you've been listening to this podcast for a while, but let it be easy podcast, you'll know that I often just refer to ease as truth, right?

Coming back to the truth, the truth is easy, right? There is a cleanliness to it. There is a throughline, there is a feeling of purity with ease and the truth.

So she didn't hit this big goal that she had and she was talking about it, worried about it,

having all these thoughts, you know, are my best days behind me, etc, etc.

We all know these freak out moments.

Am I right?

We can relate, I think, even if it's not a career goal, with something else.

And I said to her, like I say to myself, and I'm saying to you now,

you are not your career result.

I said to another friend of mine recently, you are not your book. She's really worried. She's got a new book coming out. You know, there's a lot of expectation. She's feeling a lot of pressure, self-imposed. You are not your book sales. You are not your anger. This is something that I've worked

on with myself. If you read my book, let it be easy. You'll know that I focused a lot on controlling other people before I kind of really came around to the fact that that's totally futile and adopted an entirely new way of being.

But I used to have moments of real anger where I would just want to explode and if a situation didn't go my way

I would feel a lot of big feelings about that that really did consume me in the moment.

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