"You’re a Nice Guy, But…" Dating Horror Stories
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 22 July 2025
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
Comedian Paul Schoenberg joins us today to get into why “nice guys” are often misunderstood, how texting culture has made rejection feel impersonal and confusing, and why so many people can’t recognize a red flag until they’re paying $2.99 a week just to text someone. We also talk about gluten, group chats, the emotional risk of being earnest, and why knowing what you want isn’t the hard part—finding someone who matches your energy is.
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| 0:00.0 | This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation. |
| 0:08.1 | Paul Schoenberg. |
| 0:09.4 | Yeah. |
| 0:09.8 | I said it right. |
| 0:10.5 | You did? |
| 0:11.0 | I did. |
| 0:11.2 | All day I was like, is it Schoenberger, Schoenfeld? |
| 0:13.3 | Schoenberg or Schoenfeld? |
| 0:14.9 | Yeah, I've gotten the mix of it, like Schoenberger, Schoenberg, you know, the lay. |
| 0:40.0 | Even Jews got it wrong sometimes. It happens. It happens. It's hard to keep track. But Paul Schoenberg. Yeah. Hi. Welcome to seeing other people. Thank you so much for having me. Excited to have you here. Okay. Let's go through real quick your little resume of what people need to know. And we're going to get into, there's more, but stand-up comedian. Yep. Almost 30? |
| 0:40.9 | Yeah, I'll be 30 in like six weeks. Very bitter about |
| 0:45.3 | day. Actually, the correct phrase that you use was more bitter than licorice. Yeah, more |
| 0:51.5 | bitter than licorice, I think is indicative of my feelings. That's very |
| 0:55.2 | bitter on the scale of one to bitter. Yeah, I'd say so. Okay, we have to find out how you got this |
| 1:00.8 | way. That's fair. I mean, I feel like every, you know, superhero has an origin story, |
| 1:05.7 | I guess in this case, a villain. |
| 1:14.9 | Uh, a villain. But yeah, it's, I think it's, there's a couple things that I could talk about, in particular, |
| 1:22.7 | just to give you some background. |
| 1:24.8 | I like have, for the longest time, always wanted to be like a relationship guy. |
| 1:31.7 | Okay. |
| 1:32.2 | And like even the periods of time that I've been single, I haven't been good at it. |
| 1:37.4 | And it felt like something was missing. |
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