You Need To Calm Down
Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show
Slate Audio
4.4 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 17 October 2019
⏱️ 62 minutes
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Summary
On this week’s episode, Rebecca, Jamilah and Dan answer listener questions from a mom who wants to know if it really makes a difference whether you yell at your kids and another mom who wants to make sure she doesn’t overshare her mental health issues with her kid. As usual, we share our triumphs and fails and offer up some recommendations. For Slate Plus, the hosts talk kid-approved scary movies. Sign up for Slate Plus here.
Recommendations:
Rebecca recommends having fall-themed actives all fall long.
Jamilah recommends the recently released, The Addams Family movie.
Dan recommends visiting Crab Island.
Also, if you’re interested in more about the conversation on yelling, check out this article that Dan references.
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Podcast produced by Jess Jupiter.
Hosts
Rebecca Lavoie, Jamilah Lemieux and Dan Kois
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast contains explicit language. |
| 0:05.6 | Welcome to Mom and Dad are Fighting, Slate's Parenting Podcast for Thursday, October 17th, the You Need to Calm Down edition. |
| 0:14.1 | I'm Jamila Lemieux, a writer and contributor to Slate's Karen Feeding Parenting column, |
| 0:19.2 | cultural critic, communication strategist, and Mom to Naima, who is six, and we are based in Englewood, California. I'm Dan Coice. I'm an editor and writer at Slate and the author of How to Be a Family. I live in Arlington, Virginia, and I'm the dad of Lyra, who's 14, and Harper, who's 12. I'm Rebecca LaVoy. I'm a journalist and host of the podcast crime writers on. I live in New Hampshire, and my kids are Henry, who's 12. I'm Rebecca Lavoie. I'm a journalist and host of the podcast Crime Writers on. |
| 0:39.0 | I live in New Hampshire, and my kids are Henry, who's 18, Teddy, who's 16 and a half, and my |
| 0:44.0 | stepdaughter Lily, who's 19. |
| 0:45.9 | Today on the show, we've got a question about just how much you should disclose to your |
| 0:49.5 | children about your mental health issues and about yelling, something that I'm sure my fellow co-hosts |
| 0:56.1 | can relate to having some issues with. It's a constant struggle in my household. And on Slate Plus, |
| 1:03.7 | we're going to be talking about horror movies. Ooh, it's spooky time, guys. Are you |
| 1:08.6 | and your kids into it or are you chicken like Rebecca and I? |
| 1:12.5 | If you want to hear that conversation, you have to join us on Slate Plus at slate.com backslash mom and dad plus. |
| 1:20.4 | And as we always do, we're starting the show off with triumphs and fails. |
| 1:25.5 | Dan, do you have for us this week a triumph or a fail? |
| 1:30.2 | I have a question, Mark. |
| 1:32.6 | I sort of view it as a triumph, but I think it could... |
| 1:37.5 | Some listeners may feel this is a real failure, so I'm curious what listeners think when we post this episode. |
| 1:44.0 | So I think for the first |
| 1:47.9 | time ever, my daughter, my older daughter, Lyra, who's a ninth grader this year, asked to |
| 1:56.7 | just stay home from school, not because she was sick, not because she was feeling overwhelmed, |
| 2:04.2 | and needed a mental health day, not for any of those reasons, but just because she thought |
| 2:09.0 | what they were doing in school that day was stupid and she didn't want to go. And I said yes. So, that is the question. Today, it's actually today at Yorktown High School |
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