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Welcome to the Daily Stoke. For each day, we read a short passage designed to help you cultivate the strength, insight, wisdom necessary for living good life.

Each one of these passages is based on the 2000 year old philosophy that has guided some of history's greatest men and women. For more, you can visit us at DailyStoic.com.

You must learn how to stop.

Seneca wrote about how we have these natural, understandable, and voluntary responses. Someone pours cold water on you and you shiver. They jump out of nowhere and scare you and you let out a scream.

Someone drives rudely, cuts you off, prevents you from passing and you get upset. Again, natural and understandable responses.

Who we are, Seneca said, is not revealed in how we react in those moments. It's revealed in what happens next. It's in the space between the stimulus and the response, psychologist Victor Frankel, like to say, that shows who we are.

Do we speed up and follow dangerously close behind the person that pisses us off? Do we shout and scream and carry rage with us all day?

Territory, neuroscientist and author of The Source, the secrets of the universe, the science of the brain, gives us a better technique in her interview with us for DailyStoic.com.

She told us, learn how to stop. I used this exercise when I was working as a child psychologist. It's a technique that is often used by family therapists with children who get into uncontrollable rages.

I used it again more recently with executive clients. Close your eyes and allow yourself to feel what it's like when you're overwhelmed with fear, anger, and shame, etc.

Remember something that makes you feel like this and allow it to fill your whole body. Feel the emotion on your skin, in your chest, your mouth, your muscles, and your mind.

Once you feel full of it, imagine holding up a big red stop sign in your mind and allowing the feeling to dissipate completely. Relax your muscles and let the angry feeling leave you.

Practice this until you feel you can use it in real life scenarios to stay calm.

Senaqa's other line was that it is precisely in times of immunity from care that the soul should toughen itself beforehand for occasions of greater stress.

And it is while fortune is kind that we should fortify itself against her violence. That's exactly what Tara is advising.

We put in the work now, we stock the pantry before the storm comes. So that when the router distracted driver cuts you off, you don't respond by having a frothing at the mouth shouting match.

The car moving at 65 miles an hour. You stop. Let the angry feeling leave you rather than ruin in your day.

Please check out Tara's new book, The Source, The Secrets of the Universe, The Science of the Brain. And if you struggle with anger and you're looking for help, strongly suggest you check out our anger course.

Taming your temper are a stoic guide to conquering and controlling your anger. You can check that out at dailystoic.com slash anger.

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