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Turning The Tables By Teresa Giudice
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🗓️ 21 March 2025
⏱️ 83 minutes
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Introducing Family Therapist: The #1 Sign You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents from The School of Greatness.
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Most of us unknowingly live under what family therapy expert Jerry Wise calls "the family trance" – a powerful force that shapes our identity without our awareness. After 45 years helping thousands break free from dysfunctional family patterns, Jerry reveals how our adult struggles often stem from inherited emotional programming that creates a "malignant normalcy" within us. Through our conversation, he shares the revolutionary concept of self-differentiation – the courageous process of separating your true self from your family's expectations while remaining emotionally connected. When Jerry states "whatever issues I leave unresolved, who gets to resolve them? My children," I realized this might be the most transformative conversation we've had about breaking generational patterns. His profound insight that "it's never too late to have a happy childhood" offers hope to anyone trapped in cycles of criticism, people-pleasing, or emotional reactivity that originated in their family system.
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In this episode you will learn:
- Why criticizing yourself harshly is often your "family self" talking, not your authentic voice
- How to identify if you had narcissistic parents and what that means for your adult relationships
- The three levels of resistance you'll face when changing family dynamics and how to overcome them
- Why trying to change your parents is futile, but changing yourself transforms the entire system
- The difference between setting outer boundaries and the crucial inner boundaries needed for healing
- How the "fantasy" of finally getting parental approval keeps many adults emotionally stuck
- Why it's never too late to have a happy childhood through self-parenting and inner child work
- The three core elements needed for lasting change: self-awareness, self-regulation, and self-differentiation
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| 0:00.0 | There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. |
| 0:04.2 | I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. |
| 0:11.9 | It is going to be big, and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. |
| 0:17.0 | Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston, we're going to Nashville, then we're going to Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to Lewishouse.com slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know if you're looking to create more financial freedom |
| 0:38.7 | and abundance in your life. And you want to see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness |
| 0:44.0 | show. Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there. People will always ask me, |
| 0:49.1 | am I a narcissist? And I'll go, do you ever feel guilty? A narcissist is not going to feel that guilt. |
| 0:57.5 | What have they done wrong? They're always right. Why would they apologize? You made them do it? |
| 1:04.7 | Oh my gosh. Or they did it for your good. Jerry is a life and relationship, counselor. |
| 1:11.7 | For 40 years, he is in a professional in psychotherapy and family therapy and now in life coaching. |
| 1:17.3 | Please everyone welcome Jerry Wise. |
| 1:19.3 | So many people grow up under the family trance. |
| 1:23.4 | They don't understand the dysfunction of their family because it's been normalized. |
| 1:29.3 | Here I am criticizing myself and cutting myself down internally and hating myself. |
| 1:36.3 | And many will go, don't look at any of that. |
| 1:39.3 | Let's just try to be nicer to yourself. |
| 1:43.3 | Versus, wait a minute, let's get mom and dad out of the |
| 1:46.7 | week. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. So let's start now. What are the warning |
| 1:52.5 | signs then that show up in adult children of narcissistic parents? Let's then take a look at that. |
| 2:04.0 | Welcome back in one of the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest today. We have |
| 2:08.5 | the inspiring Jerry Wise in the house and a quick bio about Jerry. He's the leading expert in |
| 2:13.1 | healing from family and relationship dysfunction through self differentiation. You've been doing this work |
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