Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

You'll never be proud of this. There are very few things that are universal to parenthood,

but here's a big one. You have never once lost your temper at your kids and felt good about

yourself afterwards. You never have, and you never will. Losing your temper never makes things

better. It never accomplishes what you think it will

accomplish. It is not a source of pride. And as we have said, never a good look. Yet here we are

again getting upset, raising our voices, issuing some ultimatum in frustration or desperation,

angrily making unrealistic or unnecessary demands.

We know we'll regret it.

We know we'll feel bad about it later.

We know it risks sending the wrong message.

We know they will take it hard.

Worse still, we know that with the passage of time,

the whole thing will look smaller and smaller.

And the only thing that will remain with any degree of permanence is the memory of the anger.

So what if we just didn't do it? Or at least what if we tried hard not to do it, or much less often?

Just as Mr. Rogers talked to generations of children about what to do with the mad you feel,

we have to figure out ourselves what to do. We need insertion points. We need pauses. We need

deep breaths and 10 counts. We need to catch ourselves before our temper sinks both its claws into

us and the anger carries us away. At Daily Stoke, we have this great challenge, the tame your

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