You Have A Lot In Common With Your Loved One
Love Over Addiction
Michelle Anderson
4.8 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 6 September 2020
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
If you're codependent, you may find yourself concentrating on your loved one's addiction (sometimes more than they are). Or relying on them to validate your feelings and help you feel better. And look, no judgment at all.
But you may be surprised to learn how some of your own hurt, pain, and struggles are similar to what your partner experiences with their addiction.
In this week's episode, I discuss the traits you might have in common with your partner and how it relates to each person's recovery.
Just a loving reminder: you can get better and move forward with your growth regardless of whether they choose to get healthy. Your loved one's sobriety has nothing to do with your happiness.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Here's a deal. Here's a deal. Here me out on this. I think we have lots of common denominators with our loved ones who are suffering |
| 0:31.6 | from addiction and I think our commonalities are actually |
| 0:36.7 | one of the reasons why we were attracted to them to begin with and why we continue to stay in an unhealthy relationship |
| 0:46.0 | that we should probably leave. I know that's not true for everyone but for a lot of us it is. So today I'm going to talk about |
| 0:57.0 | kind of the parallel journey and I hate that word and I'm using it more and more |
| 1:02.4 | but it's such a, I don't know, |
| 1:05.0 | nuanced word, but why are, you know, relationships are with our loved one that's suffering from addiction, why our hurt and our pain |
| 1:21.4 | and our struggles are very, very similar to the ones we love. |
| 1:27.3 | So I'm going to say, I'm going to talk about the traits of a cod dependent and then I'm going to talk about the traits of a codipendant, |
| 1:33.6 | and then I'm going to talk about the traits of an alcoholic |
| 1:37.1 | or an addict, and I'm going to compare them. |
| 1:42.2 | And you can see, while I I'm when I'm comparing this if you can |
| 1:46.2 | identify with any of these things. And maybe maybe at the end of this |
| 1:52.0 | podcast you will feel more compassion and more forgiveness and more |
| 2:00.0 | love towards your loved one who's struggling with addiction. I'm not saying that you're |
| 2:06.4 | going to excuse their behavior or stay in an abusive relationship that you should leave. |
| 2:15.8 | But even if you decide to go, |
| 2:20.1 | it's really, really important |
| 2:22.3 | to get to a place of forgiveness. |
| 2:24.8 | When I left my ex-husband, I was, I left, |
| 2:48.1 | not out of anger but because I wasn't angry My sadness pushed me to try and achieve something greater. |
| 2:53.0 | My rejection, like the rejection, the amount of times that he didn't come home |
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