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You get to choose this. So don't. Things will go wrong. Fortune will turn on you. You will make mistakes. Plans will be disrupted. Dreams will be dashed. This is life. We don't control so much.

What happens? When I interviewed happiness expert Dr. Lori Santos for the Daily Stoke podcast, her class at Yale is one of the

most popular in the school's history, she told us that in addition to wearing a momentum

mori ring every day, I wear one too. You've probably seen it if you've ever seen videos

of me or I'm doing

talks. She also has this bracelet that reminds her of the Buddhist story of the second arrow.

What is the second arrow? The first arrow is all the stuff we've talked about. Someone says something

rude to you. A car breaks down. A business fails, a deal falls through, a job opportunity

slips away. What follows is the second arrow. When we ruminate on our suffering, when we blame

ourselves, when we tell ourselves we'll never recover, when we choose to feel singled out.

In meditations, Mark Sorosa talked about how the harm doesn't come so much from the event,

but from feeling harmed by it, that is the second arrow.

We choose to say we've been insulted.

We choose to think I'll never recover.

We choose resentment.

We choose self-doubt afterwards.

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