Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical

wisdom, and insights from parents just like you all over the world.

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You don't have to like it, but you should try.

It had been a long day.

He was tired.

He just wanted his teenage stepdaughter Tegan from the indie pop duo, Tegan and Sarah,

to stop blasting the same album over and over.

Besides, he hated Nirvana, which was just then about the biggest band in the world.

So he told her to turn it off.

He told her that the music was driving him insane.

He was well within his rights up until the point that he made a joke about Kurt Cobain's sexuality.

He should have known better. As Tegan explains in her fascinating book, High School, a must read for

any parent with artistic children, she was just then coming to terms with her own identity. She went

ballistic at her father. She was inconsolable. It was clearly not about the music at all. Finally,

after many apologies, her dad was able to talk to her. She played Nirvana's unplugged album for him.

A fan of David Bowie, he was surprised by their cover of the man who sold the world. You're right, they are

good, he told her. Leave that CD here. I'm going to make a copy to play in my truck. Look, you don't

have to like what your kids like, but you should try. You should try to find what you can like about it.

Most of all, you should try to think about why they like it, what it's doing for them.

Your son is into heavy metal because it's an outlet for his frustrations,

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