Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast where we provide one lesson every day to help you with your most important job being a dad.

These are lessons inspired by ancient philosophy, by practical wisdom, and insights from dads all over the world. Thank you for

listening, and we hope this helps. You better up your bandwidth. Each of us has a certain

amount of it. It depends on where we live, how much we can

afford, what we do for a living. We only have so much bandwidth, not internet bandwidth, of course,

although that also depends on the same factors. No, this is about a more personal capacity,

a capacity for frivolity, for presence, for doing kids' stuff. Some dads can put on a

dress and sit at a tea party. Some moms can easily muster enthusiasm for their kids' heavy metal band

or a love of anime or soft-toss batting practice in the backyard. Some parents can get down and

wrestle, but only every once in a while.

Some parents can drive their kids around to vinyl record stores, but not with much excitement.

We all have different levels of bandwidth at different moments due to what we have going on in our

lives. But the truth is that we could also use more of it.

And there's only one way to get more of it. That is through a force of will. It's by ruthlessly

eliminating the things that are currently and unnecessarily eating up bandwidth. It's by

training yourself to focus, to put the phone down. It's by setting up a rule.

I will jump in the pool anytime they ask.

Just as so much of our professional lives depends on our ability to stream and send

quickly over lightning speed internet, a happy family life with well-adjusted kids who

understand their love also depends on ample bandwidth.

But just remember, this bandwidth cannot be ordered, cannot be upgraded through a provider.

You have to make it.

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