You Aren't Alone Enough.

BigDeal

Codie Sanchez

Marketing, Business, Investing, Entrepreneurship

4.9 • 970 Ratings

🗓️ 3 February 2026

⏱️ 32 minutes

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If you feel mentally crowded, over-influenced, or disconnected from your own powers, today’s episode is for you. It’s about how stepping back — intentionally — can restore clarity, confidence, and direction. We explore why solitude isn’t loneliness, but a practical tool for better decisions and stronger self-trust. Drawing from Carl Jung’s idea of individuation, Nietzsche’s writing on original thought, and examples like Sarah Blakely building Spanx against outside advice, the episode looks at how people develop an internal compass instead of borrowing one from the world. I also introduce the “Inner Board Meeting” framework: a way to separate the voices of vision, execution, and self-protection so choices come from your core, not reactivity. Along the way, we examine burnout as identity suppression, midlife crises as unmet meaning, and the hidden cost of being too available to others. The goal isn’t withdrawal—it’s learning how to hear yourself again. Ready to turn your newsletter into your career? Head to https://beehiiv.com/codie and use code CODIE30 for 30% off your first three months. ___________ 00:00:00 Introduction 00:00:42 The Crisis of Solitude: Why You Need to Be Alone 00:02:21 Carl Jung's Individuation: Becoming Who You Truly Are 00:02:44 The Psyche Map: Ego, Persona, Shadow, and Self 00:03:54 Energy Vampires: Why Being Too Available Drains You 00:09:03 The Inner Board Meeting: Dialogue With Your Inner Voices 00:12:09 Nietzsche on Solitude: Flee Into Your Solitude 00:14:19 Sarah Blakely and the Path of Solitude 00:19:12 Strategic Non-Reactivity: The Bare Hibernating Method 00:21:05 Midlife Crisis as Opportunity: When Your Persona Cracks 00:22:02 Burnout is Shadow Suppression 00:26:23 The Self-Contract: Choosing Your Identity 00:28:20 Potential Is Worthless: Reality Over Possibility 00:29:57 Main Street Millionaire Live: Your Path to Business Ownership ___________ MORE FROM BIGDEAL 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@podcastbigdeal 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bigdeal.podcast 📽️ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@big.deal.pod MORE FROM CODIE SANCHEZ 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@codiesanchezct 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/codiesanchez 📽️ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@realcodiesanchez OTHER THINGS WE DO 🌐 Our community: https://contrarianthinking.typeform.com/to/WBztXXID 📰 Free newsletter: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3XWLlZp 📚 Biz buying course: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3NhjGgN 🏠 Resibrands: https://resibrands.com/ 💰 CT Capital: https://contrarianthinking.biz/4eRyGOk 🏦 Main St Hold Co: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3YfGa8u Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Have you ever noticed how some people control every room without saying anything?
0:03.8	And other people have to be loud and seen to be heard.
0:07.2	But the powerful ones just withdraw.
0:09.7	They're silent.
0:10.4	And then you watch as people chase after them.
0:12.8	That is the point.
0:14.2	How do you become the chased as opposed to the chaser?
0:17.3	When you stop becoming available, the world reacts.
0:37.6	It wants to latch and grab on and pull you in. And that is when you attract. It's when you realize that you're inherently more powerful than you think and you do not need everyone around you in order to get attention. In fact, you realize something really powerful that we're going to break in from the greatest philosophers of all time and learn in order to control the room and not be controlled around it. There are a couple things
0:42.9	that are going to be hard to hear here, but I think that is the entire point. And the first one is
0:49.8	you are not alone enough with your thoughts and creations to build the life you say you want.
0:54.9	You'll realize eventually you do not have enough solitude in your life and your work is struggling
0:58.8	for it.
0:59.6	You need to sit alone in the darkness and watch as the world comes to you.
1:02.7	I go back to that clip of Bain from Batman.
1:06.7	Oh, you think darkness is your ally.
1:11.2	You merely adopted the dark.
1:14.6	I was born in it, molded by it.
1:18.9	Literally all of history's greatest minds embraced solitude.
1:22.6	Long walks, isolated studios, late nights, early mornings, strict routines.
1:26.6	You have to deliberately strip away
1:28.4	the noise of the external world to examine the internal one. This is famous all the way from
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