You know, you've got to take ownership of what's going on in your life.

When you're not where you want to be and you say it's because the boss doesn't like you

or it's because the girl treated you this way or the guy did this.

Like all those things, you've got to take ownership of it.

And if you're blaming all these other external things, you're not going to make any changes.

And that's going to be a problem.

And that's the to be a problem. And then that's the problem too. If you're chronically rejected by people, it's often because of your own insufficiencies.

You know, whether that's cowardice or lack of social skills or whatever it is, it's like,

you can't just brush it off as, oh well, you know, no one likes me, but really I'm okay.

It's like, no, no, wrong. If everyone rejects you, there's probably something wrong,

and it's probably deep and difficult, and it's going to be horrible to fix. And so, this isn't

a trivial problem. It's not a trivial problem at all. Todd, I'm sorry, all right? I screwed up.

I know I screwed up. I don't know why. Oh great, of course. Here it comes. You can't keep doing this. You can't keep doing shi things and then feel bad about yourself. Like, that makes it okay. You need to be better.

But yet you're fully committed to sabotaging yourself and your career. Then you're sitting back stressed out and depressed,

wondering why? Why ain't things happening?

That's the answer. I just gave it to you.

It's about as real as it gets. The question is, what are you going to do next week, two weeks from now? You're in your own way. You are the reason your career is not on the next level. Nobody else but you.

When you don't have a true appreciation and acceptance for who you are and you allow yourself

to be immobilized by fear, what happens in the process is that you begin to abuse yourself.

You begin to sabotage your life, you begin to sabotage your dreams,

you begin to unconsciously work against yourself. You become your own worst enemy. So what do you

do about that? Well, you begin to realize that your dream and your gifts have so much meaning and so much value for you till your hunger for them

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