You Are Not Responsible for Other People's Emotions
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
4.9 • 755 Ratings
🗓️ 6 May 2024
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen explain the concept of differentiation. This term is woven through the work they do and they're here to explain it in a digestible, relatable way. Emmalee and Jen list some questions to help determine if you’re differentiated and share which of the questions they resonate with most. Then, they discuss how differentiation relates to codependency and cut-off, enmeshment vs. closeness, and separating your emotions from someone else’s. Em and Jen answer your questions about navigating a partner's fierce loyalty to their family, separating society's expectations from what you want, and absorbing a partner's emotions. Plus, a powerful Dear Em & Jen question! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
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