You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Hey, it's Michelle, and today I'm

It's Michelle and today I want to talk to you about releasing.

When you love someone that's suffering from addiction, I think the tendency that we all have is that we want to help. Our hearts, our bodies, our minds, we want to mend,

we want to heal the ones we love.

We want to be by their side, cheering them on, picking them up when

they're down, reminding them that they have what it takes to get sober for good.

We are usually their greatest gifts in life.

And all. gifts in life and all of that effort and all of that energy that constantly day in and day out goes into trying to help the ones we love get sober, to live up to their potential to finally become the person they were created to be all the time consistently.

All of the energy behind that on our parts is exhausting.

And it's disappointing because we are constantly being hurt by the ones we love

because the truth is they haven't been able to get sober.

That they hurt us with their broken promises,

with their lying,

with their manipulations into making us feel like somehow,

some way, it's our fault,

that we are ultimately the ones responsible and to blame for the reasons why they put the bottle to their mouth or the drink to their lips or they crush the pills or they look at the website or they just can't stop whatever bad habits they have.

And you and me, most likely, were raised in a household where we believed everyone's

happiness was somehow

some way

if people were in a bad mood, it was something we did wrong.

If people didn't meet our needs it's because we really

didn't deserve to have them met. You and me, we are the type of people that quickly take the blame all the time, every time, for most things.

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