I can't wait to grow up and not have feelings. Oh, nope, we don't grow out of those, bail. Nope, actually, they get a little more complicated. Sorry, sorry to break it to you, kiddo. Raising a well-behaved child in this world requires strict discipline and punishment. Today, we will look. No, the fuck we will not.

Hello and welcome to Childproof and Airwave Media podcast.

I'm Tori Phantom.

And I'm Gwen to Lathland.

And today we're picking back up right where we left off in the previous episode. Being mad is not always bad. Because feelings aren't bad.

But it's true. Sometimes simple is great. But before we do that, let's set the timer.

It was so healing for me to be able to tell my is great. But before we do that, let's set the timer.

It was so healing for me to be able to tell my kids that it was okay for them to be mad at me.

Yeah? Did you grow up in a place where it was unsafe? I know the answer, but I'm going to pretend like I don't know the answer. Did you grow up in a place where it was unsafe to feel mad, not just at your parents, but in general? It sure was. I still struggle with this. When I feel mad, I feel guilty.

I feel ashamed.

I feel afraid because my anger, it could mean a lot of things for, for, you know, more than

half my life, right?

Until I moved out.

And I didn't know what the consequences of my having a valid feeling would be.

And so it was hold it in or be afraid because I learned that association.

And so I often have to remind myself when I end up in that elevated state where I feel

mad like I'm now having a conversation

with myself in my head going is this a valid reason to be mad am I expressing this in a way that's

harmful like because number one as we know I never want to make my kids feel how I've held right

I never want that to be the case. But also being angry is valid.

And it's important that our kids see us experiencing valid emotions and expressing them

in a healthy way because you could be mad without being mean.

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