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A brother writes to us from New Jersey that he has an elder sister who has been trying

to get married for many years. She is now in her 30s and for whatever reason no suitable

candidate has come in the past. However, she has gotten to know somebody at work

and they have spoken to one another and developed a liking and now he has proposed for her hand.

Our brother emails and says this is the problem, that he seems like a good candidate, he seems to be a good Muslim, however, his father and her father,

their brother and sister, his father is not allowing this marriage to take place

because the brother who's proposing is from another ethnicity.

And he says, my mother and I think this brother is a good candidate,

but our father is adamant that he doesn't want to marry outside his ethnicity. And also,

he says that he doesn't like the fact that his daughter found this man on her own through work.

He finds this to be Islamically awkward

and he would rather that they go through family and friends.

So he is saying, the question is, in this case,

may I disobey my father, the brother is asking me,

may I go against my father's wishes and take over the willaya,

become the wali for my sister, she's my elder sister,

may I become the wali and have this marriage take place.

And what I arsailna from

from you,

unless rijal, we'll have from before you just a rjala

Nuhi to him.

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