XYBM Clips: Black man, stop projecting your pain onto women
Express Yourself Black Man
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🗓️ 6 August 2025
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In XYBM 136, I sit down with AJ McQueen, the soulful entrepreneur and artist who has evolved his lyricism, consciousness, and personal experiences into his music. From his roots in St. Louis, battling hardships, witnessing violence, and experiencing tremendous personal losses, AJ has transformed these challenges into powerful narratives that resonate with many.
We explore his journey of healing, the importance of self-love, the struggle for Black men in today’s society, and the critical role of vulnerability in personal growth. Tune in to the full episode on all podcast streaming platforms.
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| 0:00.0 | A lot of us is black man. |
| 0:01.3 | Like, yeah, we do have, we may have issues with our pops, but a lot of us got mother wounds, bro. |
| 0:08.4 | Yeah, a lot of us got mother wounds. |
| 0:10.2 | And we don't want to admit it because either moms was home and she was the one taking care of us. |
| 0:14.9 | So it was like, damn, how could I say, how could I say it's because of him? |
| 0:18.4 | Pops was a home. |
| 0:19.2 | So how could I have a problem with you or Mons was a breadwinner? |
| 0:21.9 | In my case, my mom was a breadwinner. So it was like, damn, like, how am I going to say you didn't do enough when you basically did everything you could to make sure that we was good? You get what I'm saying? And I think that's the most interesting space that we find ourselves in as men throughout our lives is because |
| 0:37.0 | again mom is seen as a strength |
| 0:39.8 | as a beacon of |
| 0:41.0 | of, again, mom is seen |
| 0:39.1 | as a strength, as a beacon of long-suffering, a beating of like, you know, foresight and, you know, |
| 0:47.6 | curing on. You never seen a curry on like that ever, right, while most fathers move on, you know what I'm saying, and what have you. |
| 0:56.7 | And this is true. |
| 0:58.9 | But when I wrote my album, sorry when I was distracted, you hear me, and I had a conversation |
| 1:02.4 | from my mother I never had before. |
| 1:04.2 | I'll never forget we had one conversation where I was talking to her about, like like how certain things made me feel. |
| 1:12.0 | Like it was when I was writing an album that I called Miss Johnson |
| 1:15.0 | out of the blue. |
| 1:18.0 | And I told her how kicking me out made me feel. |
| 1:20.4 | And I had never told it before. |
| 1:21.8 | But for yours, I bought her presents. |
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