Welcome back to the Anxiety Slayer podcast. I'm Shan Banderleak here with my

wonderful friend and partner Ananga Civier. And today we're responding to a

question from our private Facebook group about worrying and

anticipating negative responses from people in our lives.

And this is huge. I've been there. I know you've been there inanga. Yeah. It's a really painful and sticky concern isn't it? It's really preoccupying. No one likes to feel judged or

misunderstood or receive negative responses. And I think what we know from Ira Vader and different mind and body types and anxiety, we know that most people living with anxiety are very sensitive people in a good way. They're sensitive souls and they're

deeply affected by conflict and criticism and usually have a strong need

for harmony in their lives.

I know I do that's a top priority for me is harmony in

communication and relationships. We find comfort in understanding and

being understood so this is a a real concern of core anxiety.

And today we're going to talk about what helps.

Starting with, the stronger we feel inside, the better we can cope with what comes from the outside.

This is where self-care comes in.

This is where positive self-talk comes in. And of course our personal resilience varies

from day-to-day. Some days you feel like you can take on the world and other days

you feel like you want to hide from it.

But that's the way of life, isn't it? It is. And if we work to support ourselves, our boundaries, the buffer that we can create around

our energy, it will gradually expand and we will, you will, feel a lot more weatherproof.

Yeah, I think it's really important to start there.

The anxiety is such an inside job so sometimes we just don't feel good inside we're

struggling already inside so then when more comes in in the form of criticism or unwelcome feedback or negative responses to what we're

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