This is the BBC World Service. I am Santa Safi and welcome to World of Wisdom,

where we offer self-help for the spirit.

All over the world, people are reassessing their lives right now.

In this series of programs we unite them with a wise guide to offer them some universal advice to help them and all of us listening.

These are difficult times, but here is the helpful idea from Ickart tole to get it started.

He is a writer and spiritual thinker originally from Germany

and he offered this thought to a young Albanian man in Beijing earlier this year.

You're manufacturing unhappiness through complaining.

It does not help you overcome the situation at all.

It usually blocks you from finding a true solution to the situation and it makes you unhappy so even that little thing no matter how the

COVID situation affects you in whatever way your life has become limited,

accept the moment as it is

and relinquish complaining mentally.

See how that changes the way in which you experience life.

Give up complaining, it's a tough challenge.

You can hear the whole of that conversation at

BBC World of Wisdom. But I must warn you, on top of stopping complaining, we have to give up longing too.

This advice from Dr. Shifale, a psychologist and spiritual teacher from India. She was speaking to

parlour from Costa Rica who has deep-seated expectations for her twin

children. The problem comes from our longing.

When we have a longing and we've decided life is better this way and then when it doesn't

turn out that way, we project our own feelings onto the reality and we make ourselves

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