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The Richard Nicholls Mental Health Podcast

Wooden Legs & Excuses

The Richard Nicholls Mental Health Podcast

Richard Nicholls

Mental Health, Psychotherapy, Health & Fitness, Wellbeing, Education, Anxiety, Happiness, Self-improvement, Depression, Self Help, Psychology, Alternative Health, Counseling, Counselling

4.8690 Ratings

🗓️ 1 December 2018

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Send us a text Have you ever met someone with a wooden leg? Not a real wooden leg, but a metaphorical one? In the 60’s, a psychiatrist called Eric Berne, turned some common problematic psychological processes into what he called “Games People Play” One of which he called the wooden leg game. Imagine a man with a wooden leg who has used it as an explanation for why his life is unfulfilled all of his life, he would often say “If it wasn’t for this wooden leg, I could have been an athlete....

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0:00.0

And hello to you and welcome to the Richard Nichols podcast, the Personal Development

0:07.7

Podcast series that's here to help inspire, educate and motivate you to be the best you can be.

0:16.0

I'm psychotherapist Richard Nichols and this is episode 164. It's titled Wooden Legs and Excuses. And if you're

0:24.5

ready, we'll start the show. Hello all. It's December. Well, if you're listening to this now,

0:34.4

anyway, for all I know for you, it's mid-June. But for me right now,

0:38.1

it's December. I know, because the temperature has dropped. The evenings are dark,

0:43.7

and every single tree in my neighbourhood seems to have been able to spew their leaves all over my back lawn.

0:50.8

I'd go and rake them all up, but... I don't know about you, but it's due to be quite windy this afternoon, and they'll just blow everywhere.

0:58.0

I live on the top of a hill, you see, really high up, really windy, so there's no pointing raking the leaves.

1:05.3

I can't rake the leaves. It's too windy up here, but, you know, what do you expect when the conditions aren't right?

1:12.9

I can't change the weather, and I can't change the altitude in my garden, so there's nothing I can do, is there?

1:19.0

It's not my fault that it's windy. What do you expect to me?

1:23.0

Now then, you might have had some conversations like that yourself at some point in the past,

1:29.5

either being the one listening or the one making the excuses. And this process reminds me

1:36.8

of what a psychiatrist in the 60s named Eric Byrne used to call the wooden leg game.

1:43.3

If you imagine a man with a wooden leg who used this leg

1:47.1

as an explanation for why his life is so unfulfilled. And he says things like, if it wasn't for

1:53.6

this wooden leg, I could have been an athlete. Or when he complains that he's unemployed,

1:58.6

he says, what do you expect from a guy with one leg?

2:02.1

And the wooden leg game can hold us back from enjoying life and feeling fulfilled. And there are many

2:08.9

things that can be your version of a wooden leg. People will say, yes, I have alcohol problems,

2:16.3

but what do you expect from the child of alcoholic parents? Or, of course, I have alcohol problems, but what do you expect from the child of alcoholic

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