Women Should Not Initiate (and other bad relationship advice)

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 21 April 2020

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

When it comes to relationships, have you ever heard the phrase, “women should not initiate”? This is all too common advice, and unfortunately, it’s advice that comes with a lot of controversy as well as negative repercussion. So should women initiate? And what does that look like in dating, as well as in marriage? The bad relationship advice series continues at TrueLoveDates.com by unpacking this relationship advice and why it can actually wreak havoc on your relationship in the long run. Should Women Initiate? I’m joined by my friend and author, Phylicia Masonheimer, as we tag-team this important subject. Both Phylicia and I heard and applied this bad relationship advice that women should not initiate at different points in our lives, and in this episode we each unpack how it impacted our respective marriages, discuss why we think this is bad advice, and then offer you a healthier alternative to relationships. If you’re a woman who has ever wondered about a woman initiating in a relationship, or if you’re a man who has ever had questions about this topic, you don’t want to miss this candid episode that’s not only grounded in psychology, but in biblical truth. Tune in to Episode 68 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: More on this subject: Leadership, Submission & Headship with Tim + Anne (podcast) 3 Ways To Show Him You’re Interested (article) Can a Woman Make The First Move (podcast) 4 Reasons It’s Okay For a Woman to Initiate a Relationship ORDER DEBRA’S NEWEST BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, friends, welcome back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,
0:23.8	and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating, singleness, and marriage.
0:30.4	For those of you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time, I'm a licensed professional
0:35.1	counselor and author specializing in relationship issues.
0:38.4	I also run the Relationship Advice blog True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the message
0:44.9	that healthy people make healthy relationships.
0:48.5	If you've tuned into the podcast before, you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people
0:53.6	call in or write in with their
0:55.1	relationship questions, and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized
1:00.1	answers. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it via email or
1:05.6	voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page, true lovedates.com slash love and
1:13.0	relationships. And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes. So let's get
1:17.6	started. So we're doing something a little bit different for the next few episodes of the love and relationship
1:28.5	podcast. We are launching into something that I call our bad relationship advice series.
1:36.2	And what we're going to be doing is we're going to be taking common relationship advice
1:40.6	that often gets misconstrued or misinterpreted or relationship advice that's just
1:47.4	downright bad. And we're going to be talking through it on these next few episodes of the
1:53.5	podcast. Today's bad relationship advice is the idea that women should not make the first move.
2:07.9	And I get so many questions from women asking me if this is true, whether or not they should
2:14.6	make the first move, whether or not they should have initiative in a
2:18.9	relationship. So is this advice any good? And what are my thoughts regarding women initiating
2:25.7	relationships? To help me answer this question today, I am joined by Felicia Masonheimer.
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