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Welcome to today's episode. I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werta and we're

going to hear now as focus president Jim Daly and I chatted with Dr. Meg Meeker

about how competition between women and moms should never be allowed to hurt their relationships.

Dr Meg, one of the funny things, the story I read in your book, caught my attention because I've noticed more recently now when, you know,

you're coming to a lane merge or something like that, I've noticed when I look over to the person

who's trying to outdo me they start eight car links behind me and they got it and they're coming up to merge in front of me and we're in traffic. It's going to gain them literally like eight feet.

More often than not now, it's a woman driving that car.

It used to be more men, I think.

There is something about the competitive nature of women kind of blossoming right now but you had that experience that story in your

book I wrote about me I'd rather talk about you than me that so go for it

absolutely and I think that when we learn to identify these in ourselves then we can change and I was the second year resident and I was pregnant and our hospital was about 10 miles away and I prided myself as did my best friend woman colleague resident

on being there pretty early and trying to get their head of everybody else so I

knew what the younger people were doing and as I was driving

to the hospital very early one morning because I was earlier than everybody else I

noticed my girlfriend driving right next to me and I am so embarrassed to say I wanted to edge ahead of her and when I

edged ahead of her she edged ahead of me and before we knew it we're both

going about 70 75 down the highway and that was in the day when you didn't

It was 75. Yeah and I caught myself going what are you doing? You're putting your life

and your baby's life at risk because you're competing with somebody who's your friend and yet I wanted to edger out and that spoke volumes to me.

I don't even remember who got there first, probably her because I was maybe trying to be more

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