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Lucy, I'm home.

That's a phrase Desi Arnaz was known for in the sitcom I Love Lucy.

That was one of his signature songs.

The conga was the rhythm he helped popularize in the U.S., beating out on a Sconga drum as people dance to the beat of

one, two, three, kick.

Arnezz's movie career didn't go far, but playing Ricky Ricardo, husband of Lucille Ball's

character, Lucy Ricardo, made him a star. Just getting a major TV role was quite a feat because networks and sponsors were

skeptical that a Cuban refugee with an accent would be accepted by American viewers. I Love Lucy

premiered in 1951 when TV was young and ended its run of new shows in 1957. It became the first show in

TV history to reach 10 million people.

For years, it was the most popular show on TV. A lot of that is credited to Ball's comedic

talent and to the work Arnaz did in front of the camera and behind the scenes, creating what became

standard procedures for producing, shooting, lighting, and broadcasting TV sitcoms,

and led to the possibility of reruns and syndication. He also founded Desilu Productions,

which kept expanding and for a while was the largest creator of TV content in the world.

Our Miss Brooks, December Bride, the Andy Griffith Show, The Untouchables, and the Dick Van Dyke

show were among the programs produced by Desi Lou and or filmed in its studios. The new book,

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