Hello and welcome back to practicing human, the podcast where every day we're getting a little

better at life. I'm your host, Corey Miscara, and in today's episode, we are going to talk about

will you attract negative things in your life if you're focusing on your pain and the negative.

More to come on that in a moment. First, let's settle in together on the relationship between the idea of feeling to heal versus attracting

what you feel.

And this is an interesting one.

And even a common fear, especially among many people who do spiritual work. I remember hearing stories about a lot of

the hippies in the 70s who were doing traditional loving kindness meditation where the phrases are,

may you be free from suffering, may you be free from sickness, cetera. Instead of saying, like, may you be happy,

they say, may you be free from suffering. And a lot of them didn't want to say that because they

thought the emphasis was on suffering rather than what they actually want to create. I thought

that was interesting when I heard this. And there's some merit,

of course, to attracting something that you're always focusing on. We don't have to get too

metaphysical and law of attraction with this, but just the idea that if you're always looking

at your life through the lens of what isn't working, what doesn't go your way,

the pain you feel, you will often make decisions and interact with people or sabotage things

based on that lens. If you always feel like nothing goes your way and then there's an opportunity that comes up where

something could shift but you have the narrative of it doesn't work my way anyway so I'm not even

going to try that's an example of how your life could kind of be steered by the focusing on the pain

and this is why you'll often get a lot of people who say I just need to focus on the pain. And this is why you'll often get a lot of people who say, I just need to focus on the

positive, on what I want, what is good. And people build, you could even say, like a whole

spiritual practice and identity around that being how they orient. But the issue with this is that it can create forms of bypassing.

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