Relationship research tracked 2,000 couples. The couples who were radically honest had a 67% divorce rate.

Those who kept a few more things to themselves had only a 19% divorce rate.

You have to do a lot of forgiving, zipping your lip. You just go, hmm, we're going to let that one pass.

You want the dynamic of the marriage to be anchored in grace. Just going to church doesn't save you, just passively going and not becoming a member and not getting involved in serving in the church, you're not going to find that sense of community. So when you're like, I don't know, we go to church, but like nobody cares about us. Okay, well, what have you done? Men want a strong figure to follow because men want to be strong.

And strong local churches should breed that kind of man.

Yeah. What does it really mean to be a man after God's own heart in your home? Well, I don't know, obviously, but in a culture that either mocks masculinity or distorts it into domination,

how do we return to biblical headship, not as tyrants, but as sacrificial leaders?

How can men lead their marriages with strength and tenderness, truth and grace, especially

when life gets messy, emotions run high, and expectations clash?

Well, good thing, I'm not the one talking the most in this episode.

It is Dr. Owen Strand, theologian, professor, and author of The War on Men.

He's a voice that you may know from his bold takes on manhood, gender roles, and gospel-centered

marriage. He serves as a research professor of theology at Grace Bible Theological Seminary,

and he's been a leading figure in the complementarian movement for over a decade. In this conversation,

we talk about how men can lead as God commands, not through extreme patriarchy, not through

passive silence, but through loving, Christ-like

headship.

We'll dive into practical marriage dynamics, spiritual leadership, why respect matters to men,

how Satan tempts couples with a transactional mindset on marriage, and even how to think

biblically when culture distorts gender, marriage, and authority.

Also, how to become a spiritual leader if you haven't

ever been one and don't know where to start. Whether your marriage is thriving, struggling, or just

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