As child counselors, you are seeing things in kids that you have not seen at all in 30 years,

and it has you seriously concerned.

We are seeing a lot of kids who are unwilling to walk into a school building,

afraid to get their driver's license.

The things that we looked forward to and felt like we're a part of life growing up,

they are hesitant and feel incapable.

Ride a bike. Kids don't know how to ride bikes? No. There's a teenager who's telling their parents, I don't think I'm ready to get my driver's license. Do you think that a parent should push them to anyway? We're not waiting until we feel ready or prepared. We're going to walk forward with courage in things that feel overwhelming and scary.

Nervous is normal.

And I don't think we're saying that enough to kids. I'm going to... Your 7-year-old is anxious, overwhelmed, melting down over things that didn't used to be a big deal. Your teenager is

telling you they're not interested in driving. And your 20-year-old has no desire to leave

the house. What is happening? Are we crazy or did kids used to be more capable? Sissy

Goff and David Thomas have spent over 30 years sitting across from kids and families in crisis

as child counselors.

And they're sounding the alarm. We are raising kids who feel more supported than ever, but also

less capable than ever. In their new book, Capable, How to Teach Your Kids Strength, Skills,

and Strategies to Build Resilience, they argue something that's going to make a lot of parents

uncomfortable. Your job is not to make your kid happy.

It is to make them strong enough to handle life.

This episode is all about raising not just confident, but capable kids.

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