Why You Would Have An Adult Temper Tantrum Rather Than Consciously Self-Express Episode 102
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 13 October 2020
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
Your immediate reaction to this episode might be "yes my partner definitely has some adult temper tantrums". Which is probably true at times, so we will of course go more into how you can HELP and SUPPORT them, rather than avoiding or getting mad at them yourself.
BUT if you were really being honest, you might see that you yourself have your own tantrums sometimes. These are places that you just don't know how else to express yourself or realize what it is you really want and need. Many of us do this (act like hurt or wounded kids) because we just do not know and were not taught any other way.
Maybe this is ok at work or with friends, but when it comes to a healthy, connected, and lasting romantic relationship… you will just do more damage than good. All because you haven't learned these simple skills.
In today's episode you will learn:
- Why you, or your partner, express yourself like your child-self when you are feeling hurt or misunderstood.
- How to best support and communicate with your partner during these times.
- The tools to move into conscious self-expression and communication.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast where here you get modern, non-boring relationship |
| 0:05.6 | advice for you to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same team no matter the |
| 0:12.0 | challenge that you face. I am one of your host, Erin Freeman. And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all |
| 0:16.2 | just know us as the Freeman's. And today, hopefully this title really caught your attention |
| 0:20.6 | why you would have an adult |
| 0:22.7 | temper tantrum rather than consciously self-express. |
| 0:27.1 | Yes, we said adult temper tantrum and we're going to go into what that looks like |
| 0:31.9 | and what causes that. |
| 0:34.1 | And I just want to share where this came from is a few places. |
| 0:37.5 | Number one, me reflecting on my past. |
| 0:39.7 | You guys, no judgment here. |
| 0:41.3 | I used to have big time adult temper tantrums in my relationships. |
| 0:46.1 | And so it came from my own reflection. |
| 0:48.0 | And then of course, witnessing it within couples that we do coaching sessions with and them |
| 0:53.7 | sharing about conflicts that they're having |
| 0:55.6 | or when they're triggered and going, hey, that's an adult temper tantrum and, you know, |
| 1:01.1 | being able to break that down. |
| 1:02.9 | So that's where we're headed. |
| 1:03.8 | And before we jump in, we wanted to say thank you to everyone that has reviewed the podcast. |
| 1:08.9 | Last month, we actually donated $10 to the underground railroad per |
| 1:13.6 | per review per review yes per review and we just want to say thank you because you contributed to that |
| 1:20.6 | as well as when you do review the podcast and we ask please keep doing that it allows more couples |
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