Why You Stay With the Wrong Person – And How to Break the Cycle | Lori Gottlieb (Fan Fav)

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 20 June 2025

⏱️ 61 minutes

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This is a Fan Fav episode. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb just brought her absolutely game-changing wisdom to Women of Impact, and trust me, this is one you don’t want to miss. We dove deep into why you’re not as “stuck” as you think, how your old stories are shaping your current reality, and the really wild truth about what it actually takes to change (spoiler: it’s not “just knowing” better!). Lori gets radically honest about pain, envy, self-sabotage, and even how to love well. She shares her own breakthroughs as both therapist and client, and lays out tangible hacks to rewrite your life story—one real, imperfect step at a time. Get cozy, get ready—and get real with yourself—as we unpack the tools for authentic transformation, genuine connection, and the habits that will finally help you step more fully into your power. SHOWNOTES Why you must give up the hope of having had a better childhood to move forward Unreliable narrators: How your perspective can trap you in a limited life story Feeling vs. knowing: Why insight alone won’t change your life Idiot compassion vs. wise compassion: How to actually support yourself and others The uncomfortable truth about change—and why losing the familiar is so hard Pain vs. suffering: How we create unnecessary suffering and what to do instead Why following your envy is the secret to unlocking your true desires Breaking free from “comparison traps” and focusing on your own growth One small step at a time: The real path to transformation and purpose How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and finally experience true connection FOLLOW LORI GOTTLIEB:Website: https://lorigottlieb.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_authorTwitter: https://twitter.com/LoriGottlieb1Listen to Lori’s Podcast, “Dear Therapists”: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-dear-therapists-68511527/Read her Dear Therapist Column (The Atlantic): https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/speakers/lori_gottlieb CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:23.6	Welcome to the year 2000.
0:26.6	Everyone, everywhere is having fun except me.
0:29.6	On BBC Eye Player.
0:31.6	I worry you're growing up too fast.
0:33.6	Yeah, we can't be a little duck here forever, can I?
0:36.6	Inspired by a true story.
0:38.6	You walk out of this house a boy.
0:40.2	One day you'll come back.
0:41.5	When you do, it will be a man.
0:44.0	I won't hold your breath.
0:45.3	What it feels like for a girl.
0:47.0	I wish I could look like you.
0:48.4	Bebe, you can.
0:50.0	Why don't you?
0:50.8	Watch on BBC Eye Player.
0:53.8	Today on Women of Impact, psychotherapist Dr. Laurie Gottlieb unveils the honest truth to what actually holds us back in life.
1:02.0	The biggest thing is that you have to give up the hope of having had a better childhood.
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