Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Should you be confident all the time?

100% of the time every second of every minute of every hour of every day?

I mean that would be nice right if we just felt so supremely sure of

ourselves and steady without even taking a beat or a break or having a moment of

panic or anxiety or worry or am I enoughness.

In theory this may sound interesting and compelling, but number one in reality it's not possible, and number two, it would actually

put you at a disadvantage if you are supremely confident all the time.

Why is that?

I was doing some research and learning that men and women actually respond to different situations with different levels of confidence.

And women tend to lean more into what's called confidence modulation.

Meaning, they know when they are prepared, when they're in a position to add value, to show up, to be present, to be themselves, based on their own experience and based on their past successes

and based on what life has showed them, revealed to them and taught them so far.

There are situations in life where we can show up and be confident. Am I right? So if there's a task that you do often and you do it well, well, you can probably be confident. If there's a meeting where you have some subject knowledge or you have some expertise in a specific area,

yeah, go ahead, be confident in that meeting.

If you're a very confident swimmer, then yeah, dive into the ocean honey and like you know rock that front

crawl right but what if you're newer to something what if you don't have all of the information? What if you are around people

who are maybe further ahead in terms of their expertise, knowledge and experience than you?

Then perhaps we wouldn't be the most confident person in that room or that meeting or that gathering, nor should we be. In fact we'd rob

ourselves of a valuable learning experience.

Confidence modulation means that in moments where it feels appropriate and

it feels accurate and just right for us to be showing up as ourselves, we do it. We can do it however we like with

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