Why You’re Obsessed with the Wrong People
Almost Adulting with Violet Benson
Violet Benson
4.8 • 4.1K Ratings
🗓️ 13 February 2025
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
Welcome to Dear Violetta - our monthly series airing every second week of the month! where I answer your toughest questions with the unfiltered advice you need to hear.
If you've ever questioned a friendship, obsessed over a ghoster, or felt like you fall too fast in love—then today's episode is for you.
Topics Covered:
- Ending a toxic friendship & signs your friendship is toxic
- Should you give a guy who ghosted you a second chance?
- The fastest way to get someone to do what you want (in work, love, & life)
- First date mistakes: The #1 thing ruining your chances before the relationship even starts
- "Why are all the men I date cheaters?” (Hint: It’s deeper than you think)
- Getting attached too fast: The difference between love & emotional attachment
- The real reason we get swept away SO easily
🎧 Listen now for the tough love you didn’t ask for—but NEED.
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| 0:00.0 | Emotional attachment is not love. And I know it feels like love, because I feel it too. It's where you start to suddenly think about what you guys can do in the future. You miss him when he's not around. You want to spend all of your time with him. But love and emotional attachments are not the same. Love is balanced. Love is when two people keep choosing each other, not needing each other like their life depends on it. |
| 0:25.4 | Love doesn't make you spiral when he doesn't text you back in 0.5 seconds. |
| 0:30.1 | That's just anxiety and it's not healthy and it's also a nervous system telling you the person in front of you is not right for you. |
| 0:36.0 | A man should add to your happiness |
| 0:38.6 | not be your happiness file events and your favorite meme queen and the big sit you didn't ask for |
| 0:44.9 | but see welcome to almost adulting are you ready? |
| 0:54.8 | Hi, my tiny little adults. |
| 0:57.4 | My tiny adults. |
| 0:58.9 | So I've been trying a new nickname for the podcast instead of Bessie's. |
| 1:02.6 | I'm trying to move to thinking about it. |
| 1:05.0 | Me and the network, we're discussing and my producer we thought tiny adults may work as a new nickname for the listeners. |
| 1:12.6 | But you guys can tell me if you like it or not. |
| 1:14.6 | If you don't, we'll think of something else. |
| 1:15.9 | But I like tiny adults because we're all just trying to adult in our best way and we're just little adults. |
| 1:21.1 | But you tell me what you think. |
| 1:22.1 | But anyway, hi, everyone. |
| 1:23.6 | And welcome to a brand new episode of Almost Adalting. |
| 1:26.8 | I'm your Russian big sister, your host, |
| 1:29.9 | your everything, never forget that. And I'm here to give you that tough love. You may not want to |
| 1:34.6 | hear, but best believe you're going to need. And today's episode, I want to welcome you back to |
| 1:38.8 | Dear Violetta. So this is where you write in, call in, DM me, whatever, with your questions about dating, |
| 1:46.8 | about life, about anything. And I feature your questions and I try to help you through it. So today is |
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