Why You're Not on the Same Page About Sex | Marriage Minute

The Naked Marriage with Dave & Ashley Willis

XO Marriage

Relationships, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 2.8K Ratings

🗓️ 5 June 2026

⏱️ 2 minutes

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If you and your spouse are struggling with mismatched desires around sex, the real issue is often a breakdown in emotional intimacy — not just physical drive. Start by asking each other how connected you truly feel emotionally and spiritually, and invest in growing those areas together. 9 Days to Great Sex eBook: https://www.daveandashley.com/9-days-to-great-sex 21 Day Inner Healing Journey: https://store.xomarriage.com/collections/books/products/21-day-inner-healing-journey https://www.xonow.com Download our FREE 31 Day Marriage Devotional: https://bit.ly/3ZxsLZd _______________ We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	If you're a reader like me, Exo Marriage has some incredible resources that have helped couples for decades.
0:06.7	Books like Marriage on the Rock and the Four Laws of Love by Jimmy Evans break down timeless principles in a way that's practical and easy to apply.
0:15.0	You can find these books and many more through Exo Marriage. Just head to XOMarriage.com.
0:21.7	Hey friends, Dave and Ashley here. Welcome to the Marriage Minute on the Naked
0:25.7	Marriage Podcast. We're so glad that you're here. And we are doing the Marriage Minute
0:29.2	because sometimes we just don't have time to listen to a full-length episode. So we want to
0:32.8	give you a little tidbit of marriage encouragement as you go into your weekend. So let's dive in.
0:38.6	If you're at a season where you just feel like you're totally just on different pages when it comes to how frequent
0:43.2	you guys should have sex, I would really, you know, have a hard to heart conversation about
0:47.2	your emotional intimacy because a lot of times when one or both spouses are maybe just feeling
0:53.8	tension when it comes to sex. And one feels like
0:56.7	the other wants it too much and the other feels like they don't want it enough. There's usually a
1:01.0	breakdown somewhere in the emotional intimacy. Like maybe one or both spouses aren't feeling
1:04.7	heard. There's not really been attending to the emotional connection in the marriage through
1:08.8	conversation and through time investment.
1:32.2	And so I think it's a greater conversation that needs to be had between spouses when there is this breakdown in sex. And it's more than just the sex drive being the issue. The lopsided sex drives, I mean, there's a lot of reasons for that, right? But I think it's worth talking about, like, well, hey, are we connecting? Because intimacy is not just physical. So it's like, how are we connecting emotionally? How are we connecting spiritually? Like, look at the other sides of intimacy and see where you are there. And if there's room to grow there, grow those areas as well. Thank you all so much for
1:37.6	joining us for today's Marriage Minute. We hope that you want to hear more of this. So please join us on
1:42.3	Monday for a full-length episode. Hope to see you then.

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