Do you actually feel fulfilled in your relationships? Do you feel like your needs and your desires and your

wants are important? Like they get prioritized in your relationship? Or do you feel like those are the

things that are very hard and nebulous to try and get fulfilled. A lot of the men

that I've spoken to over the years that I've worked with, one of the biggest challenges that they

seem to face is not only just having needs within the relationship, but actually being able to

communicate what those needs are to get them met. And I think that for a very long time, we as men in the sort of

post-feminist era, a lot of men have become needless men in the relationship. And there's sort of this

trade that happens where a lot of guys operate from the perspective, from the belief,

that they need to prioritize the woman's needs first and foremost. So if I meet her needs,

her wants, her desires first, if I take care of all those things, then maybe I'll get mine

met in return. And that equation, that sort of relational mathematics

doesn't work. And if you've ever been in a relationship like that, I know I have, it doesn't work.

And it doesn't work because you're hiding what it is that you want and that you need and that you

desire. And the woman almost never really knows what it is that you want and that you need and that you desire. And the woman almost never

really knows what it is that you need. And so she settles into this place of being, this way of

operating and interacting with you, almost as if you don't need anything. She doesn't have to do

anything to take care of you. She doesn't have to take care of any of your

needs or your wants, your desire. She doesn't really have to do anything for you. And what happens is over

time, the relationship settles into you do a lot of things for her to try and get things in return.

Right. This is what Dr. Robert Glover from Nom More Mist a Nice guy called covert contracts, right?

I'll take the garbage out for you or, you know, I'll rub your shoulders.

And in return, hopefully you'll give me something back, right?

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