Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering if you shared too much?

Or have you stayed silent in conversations to not share because you're afraid of what your partner or your friend might think of you?

If you've ever wondered what you should share to your boss, your coworker, or your intimate partner to make sure you have the best relationship

this conversation is for you.

In long-term relationships, why do they fall apart?

Well, there was a study that looked at people who have loved each other for years and years

and two years.

They brought the couples into the lab, and they got each person to try to guess what their spouse was thinking and

feeling. And they were wrong 80% of the time. Really? She's a Harvard Business School professor,

award-winning researcher and author who has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal,

and the economist where she teaches the art and science of communication.

Leslie, thank you so much for being here. Another thing that really compounds the issue here is a

concept called mind-reading expectations. It's really insidious because those of us who have

mind-reading expectations, we implicitly believe that our partners should just know how we feel.

They should just know that we had a bad day and that we're upset just by like the way we look or something.

When they don't respond, then we get upset.

When if we had just said something, I had a shitty day. I'm exhausted. Can I have a hug?

What happens to a person inside of them when they decide not to share what's really going on when those things start to pile up?

Well, okay. So the first...

I'm excited because you've been studying the art of undersharing and oversharing and the power of why we should be more vulnerable in our sharing

and share more versus being silent.

And when we are silent in relationships, in relationships with people in our lives,

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