Dear young married couple, have you ever felt hopeless in your marriage or maybe your spouse

says something to you and you react really negatively and they look at you with that look

in their eye that says, where did that come from?

Today we're going to be talking about where that negativity may have come from, how it developed,

and what to do about it. So in this episode, we're going to introduce to you some science,

but we're going to make it very normal human terms, okay? Yeah, so let's talk about the laundry.

So the laundry gives us a really good example.

So you know how, let's say you're getting ready for work or you're getting the kids ready.

And you know, you're looking for those little socks for their feet.

And it's this pile of laundry and you're like, okay, I need to find little socks.

Another white.

Another white. So as you're like, okay, I need to find little socks. Another white. Another white.

So as you're digging through, your eyes naturally gravitate to everything that's white

because you're looking for white socks.

So you throw out that white undershirt and you throw out the white pillowcase and you

pull through the step.

Well, maybe you separate your whites from your dark.

So white may not be a good example. But in any case, you're looking for that particular sock. Or texture or. Yeah. Maybe it's a, maybe it's a jean skirt. And so you're pulling your husband's jean pants out and you're pulling your kids jeans out and you're looking. Oh, there's my jeans skirt, right? But your eyes naturally gravitate

toward the thing that you're looking for. Because the fact of the matter is, there are, I can't

remember the number, but they're like millions and millions of bits of information coming at you.

And your brain is really a sifting through the gigantic amount of information that's coming

in through your eyes and sorting out this is important you need to pay attention to this

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