Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I am your host, Rob Dyle. If you have not yet done so,

hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. I put out episodes four times a

week to help you learn and grow and improve yourself.

Because if you can improve yourself, you can improve your life. And that's ultimately what I want to help you do. Today, we're going to be talking about why you don't feel good enough.

The most common thing that I have seen in the now over 15 years of coaching people is the

underlying thread throughout people's identity

and their paradigm of themselves of I'm not enough. I'm not good enough. And the greatest fear

that comes from that is if I'm not enough, then I won't be loved. And it could show up in many

different ways. I could show up in, you know, being afraid of success being afraid of success because I'm afraid of success because I don't

know if I'm good enough to get there.

And if I do get there, I don't know if I'm able to stay there.

I'm afraid of failure because I don't know if I'm enough to actually succeed.

I'm afraid of being alone because I don't know if anyone would ever want to be with me forever. I'm afraid of, you know, going broke because I don't know if I'm enough to be able to make money. I'm afraid of my wife leaving me because I don't know if I'm

enough to have her stay with me. And it's all of these little threads of just, I'm not enough. I always say,

it's like ice cream. All ice cream is different flavors. You might have chocolate. The other person might have vanilla. I might have mint chocolate chip.

We have all these different flavors, but the underlying thing is all of the ice cream is ice cream.

And so we have all of these I'm Not Enough to just show up and kind of disguise themselves in different ways.

And I'm going to give you a couple of examples. I'm going to give you an example from a coaching session that I had that I think is really going to hit home with you.

And I'm going to actually teach you how to get past this behavioral adaptation that you unconsciously created in your childhood.

And so at some point in time, we learned unconsciously, oh, this is how I have to act to get love.

This is how I have to act in order to be accepted.

And you listened, you understood it, and you adapted.

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