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The Dr. Gabrielle Lyon Show

Why You Don’t Believe in Yourself (And How to Fix It) | Dr. Shadé Zahrai

The Dr. Gabrielle Lyon Show

Dr. Gabrielle Lyon

Medicine, Science, Health & Fitness, Life Sciences

4.51.2K Ratings

🗓️ 17 February 2026

⏱️ 95 minutes

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Self-doubt holds more people back than lack of skill or intelligence.

In this episode, Dr. Gabrielle Lyon sits down with Dr. Shadé Zahrai to explore the science of confidence, self-trust, and peak performance. They break down why confidence comes after action, how self-image shapes success, and the four psychological drivers that determine whether you thrive or stay stuck.

You will learn how body language influences perception, why high performers plan for failure, how perfectionism leads to burnout, and the subtle communication habits that undermine credibility. Most importantly, you will discover how to build what Dr. Zahrai calls Big Trust so you can back yourself before you feel ready.

If you struggle with overthinking, imposter thoughts, or feeling capable but not fully confident, this conversation will give you practical tools to change how you show up.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Confidence science: feeling vs appearing

00:51 The opposite of self-doubt and why confidence comes after action

01:53 Self-trust before confidence

03:03 Nonverbal confidence cues: posture, eye contact, smile, pace

07:30 Body language feedback loop: posture and recall

09:26 Shadé’s PhD on self-doubt under pressure

12:22 What makes people successful: self-image

12:30 Self-image blueprint and why change does not stick

14:29 The Four A’s: Acceptance, Agency, Autonomy, Adaptability

20:26 The self-awareness gap and changing personality traits

22:30 Expectation bias and the scar experiment

25:54 Self-doubt types: signal vs verdict

28:30 Visibility, influence, and the people around you

31:16 Which traits are easiest to change

35:56 Why capable people still stay stuck

40:25 Michael Phelps and visualizing failure recovery

42:30 Stop rumination: stimulus control for worry

47:45 Self-improvement vs perfectionism vs burnout

56:53 The 4 inner deceivers: Judge, Protector, Neglecter, Ringmaster

1:11:22 Peak performance and Big Trust

1:19:19 Communication habits that kill credibility

1:24:18 Stop over-apologizing and reframe emotion

1:29:47 Daily habits to build Big Trust and audit your circle

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0:00.0

Those who are the highest performers, they've understood that self-image, this concept of who we are,

0:05.3

comes down actually to four key drivers.

0:07.8

The first one is the obvious one that we associate with self-down.

0:10.8

It's the belief that I am not enough, which comes down to what we call the attribute of acceptance,

0:16.8

which is a learnable, trainable quality. The personality trait underscoring that is self-esteem.

0:21.6

So people who are able to achieve amazing things believe that they are inherently worthy.

0:26.6

They're not seeking the validation of other people. They don't take feedback personally

0:30.6

because they fundamentally accept that feedback is designed to make me better.

0:34.6

They don't fear failure because they're not worried about what the

0:37.6

failure is going to mean about them. They separate themselves from that. The second one is the

0:41.7

second element that we associate with self-doubt, which is to do with our belief about our

0:46.2

capacity and capability. Can I do this thing? Do I have the skills or the ability to learn

0:53.1

how to do that? Third one is a very interesting one.

0:57.0

Where do you place control in your life?

0:59.0

Do you believe that you have some degree of control over the outcomes in your life?

1:03.0

Or do you feel like it's completely out of your hand?

1:06.0

Now the very fourth one is the psychological trait of emotional stability.

1:11.5

We call it the trainable attribute of adaptability.

1:14.1

So it's your ability to understand your emotions,

1:16.9

understand the emotions of other people,

1:19.0

and then navigate between the two.

1:21.2

Because understanding your emotional state

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