Why We Stop Noticing What Matters and How to Feel Alive Again with Tali Sharot

The One You Feed

Eric Zimmer

Education, Self-improvement, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Buddhism, Mental Health

4.6 • 2.5K Ratings

🗓️ 20 June 2025

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Tali Sharot explains why we stop noticing what matters and how to start feeling alive again. She describes what habituation is and how our minds normalize what once moved us. Tali also explores ways that we can reawaken joy, purpose, and even moral clarity. It’s an eye-opening look at the subtle ways we lose and then can reclaim our aliveness.

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Key Takeaways:

Concept of habituation and its effects on emotional responses
Importance of noticing the extraordinary in everyday life
Strategies for counteracting habituation, such as taking breaks and diversifying experiences
Relationship between habituation and creativity
Impact of social media on emotional well-being and habituation
Exploration of habits and addiction, particularly in relation to social media
Discussion on the nature of lying and habituation to dishonesty
The balance between exploration and exploitation in personal experiences
The complexities of human emotions and expectations, particularly regarding women’s rights and happiness
Encouragement to experiment with life choices to enhance well-being and fulfillment

If you enjoyed this conversation with Tali Sharot, check out these other episodes:

How to Stop Losing Your Mind (Literally): The Surprising Science of Attention with Amishi Jha

How to Create Elastic Habits that Adapt to Your Day with Stephen Guise

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0:00.0	If we weren't the kind of creatures that habituate to these negative things, we wouldn't be able to function.
0:05.0	Not as an individual, not as a species, right?
0:07.2	We all have had these experience of things that happen to us that are sometimes really tragic, sometimes just feel tragic, perhaps are not that tragic.
0:15.0	But over time, we bounce back.
0:17.1	That's what people do.
0:25.9	Yeah. back. That's what people do. Welcome to the one you feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance
0:31.1	of the thoughts we have. Quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think,
0:37.2	ring true. And yet, for many of us,
0:39.8	our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy,
0:46.2	or fear. We see what we don't have instead of what we do. We think things that hold us back
0:51.8	and dampen our spirit. But it's not just about thinking.
0:55.7	Our actions matter.
0:57.2	It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living.
1:02.0	This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction,
1:06.4	how they feed their good wolf.
1:10.1	In Zen, we're taught to see the extraordinary in the ordinary.
1:14.0	And for a while, I tried to live entirely that way.
1:17.5	But eventually, I had to admit, novelty matters to me.
1:21.3	I need newness to feel alive.
1:24.5	That inner tug is exactly what neuroscientist Talley Sherrett names in her new book,
1:30.1	Look Again. In this episode, we talk about habituation, how our minds normalize what once moved us,
1:37.6	and how we can reawaken joy, purpose, even moral clarity. It's an eye-opening look at the subtle ways we lose and then can
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