Coming up on marriage today with Jimmy and Karen.

Compatibility is not based on sameness.

Compatibility is based on beliefs, values and character. What makes Karen and I compatible is not that

we're the same because we're polar opposites. What makes Karen and I compatible is

we love Jesus, we're going to the same place in life and we both

agree that the character of Christ is what we're after. Oh, Let me talk about why we marry the person that we marry and how it can be a

healing journey and not be a journey of pain like ours was for so long.

And I want to say this related to the sovereignty of God because God is more sovereign

than we think he is in who we marry.

It's understanding the sovereign purpose of God in marriage or why God tricks us

into falling in love with someone who can drive us so crazy

and why they drive us so crazy

and how we can stop being driven so crazy and be healed.

When we're dating, we are doing it mostly on a very subconscious level and we don't realize it

We're dating a person and we're looking at how attractive they are or you know if we like being with them or if we share the same basic things in common.

And it is important to be compatible and I'll talk more about that in just a minute.

But research has proven that most of the dating that we do in choosing a spouse is a very

It's done on the subconscious and a good analogy is an iceberg. You see an iceberg and the

tip is sticking out of the water, but the mass is below the water. When we're

dating, we're looking at a person typically at a very on a very superficial level

but God is doing something so much more under the surface that we don't even know

about and it's the not knowing that creates the danger.

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