Why the Past Gets Brought Up Mid-Argument: Episode 256
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 4 October 2022
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
Here you are having a slightly tension filled conversation with your partner, then out of nowhere they bring up something from the past! "You did the same thing last week" or "this is exactly what you do, you don't respect me".
One of the most common things we hear that escalates things quickly is the past being brought up. This is not just random however, this is an indication of a few things. In this episode we're going to share FOUR of the most common things this indicates and all 4 could really strike a chord, so be sure to listen all the way to the end!
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring |
| 0:04.9 | relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and |
| 0:09.8 | stay on the same team no matter the challenge you face. I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:14.0 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:16.8 | And this episode is about why the past gets brought up mid-argument. |
| 0:21.8 | Now, I know some of you just had flashbacks to either a scenario this week or in the last |
| 0:26.8 | month or the last year where you can vividly remember tension building. |
| 0:31.2 | You know, it could either just be a really tense conversation or a full-blown disagreement |
| 0:35.5 | where there's energy and emotion and it's starting to |
| 0:38.2 | turn into an actual argument and all of a sudden you're now listing out these different things from |
| 0:46.2 | the past you know for me it might even be that you're basically just having a conversation that has a little hint of something in it, right? |
| 0:58.6 | Then someone says something like you always do that. |
| 1:04.0 | Or this is just like last month when you... |
| 1:06.6 | You said the same thing to me just the other day. |
| 1:10.7 | Or, oh yeah, it's just like your mom would say. Part said the same thing to me just the other day. Mm-hmm. |
| 1:13.2 | Or, oh, yeah, it's just like your mom would say. |
| 1:13.5 | Yep. |
| 1:14.5 | Part under the breath. |
| 1:20.4 | And you bring up something from the past that you thought was put to bed or was something that shouldn't be brought up in any conversation. |
| 1:24.7 | Yeah. |
| 1:25.0 | And this has been coming up in a lot of sessions. |
| 1:27.3 | You know, we're always looking for themes and different things that are really happening |
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